Friend !?

Friendship in college is not the same as the friendships we had in school.

In school, we never really spent much time with our friends. We were mostly focused on our studies. In many cases, we didn’t even know much about each other’s families. Yet somehow, we’d still find two or three genuine friends—people who truly wanted to know us and sincerely wished for our well-being.

But when we enter college, the atmosphere is entirely different.

We start learning more about life than the subjects taught by our professors. We learn about society, how the world works, and the struggles each person must endure just to survive. We come across people who smile in front of us but speak poorly behind our backs. After all that emotional effort, we might find someone we consider a good friend—only to realize that they are also close to the very people who talk behind our backs. Worse, they only seem to reach out when they need something.

And that makes us question: What’s the point of friendship if someone can’t defend you when you’re not around?

Can someone truly be loyal to two opposing sides at the same time?

Sometimes, friends leave us halfway through, saying they felt ignored or avoided. But they don’t see the countless hours we spent trying to fix things—how we stayed up crying, wondering what went wrong, and trying to make things right.

Some people stay friends with us just because they don’t want to be seen as the bad person—even though they don’t genuinely like us.

Yet, after all the heartbreaks and betrayals, we still manage to find true friendship.

There will be someone who genuinely cares—someone who stands up for you, who never chooses others over you, and who walks with you through life’s challenges.

Selfless love. No expectations in return.

Isn’t that what true friendship is all about?

Because in the end, it's not about how many friends we have—but about finding the one who stays when everyone else walks away. The one who defends you in your absence, lifts you when you’re down, and loves you with no conditions. That’s the kind of friendship worth holding on to.